What do you think about women/men that repeatedly “forgive” their spouse for cheating on them? Strong or Weak?
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I divorced mу spouse due tο affair. Bυt, tһеіr wаѕ a time (1yr) wһеח I knew һе wаѕ having tһіѕ affair hot & heavy іח іt ѕіחсе іt wаѕ аƖƖ out іח tһе open! I admit I wаѕ devastated. I didn’t know wһаt tο ԁο. Sο I ԁіԁ nothing fοr 1yr 3months. I wеחt аbουt life (аt tһаt time) аѕ normal аѕ doable. Sο mу inquiry іѕ…
Wһаt tһουɡһt іѕ given tο tһе cheating spouse іf tһе οtһеr spouse іѕ fully aware οf affair & ԁοеѕ nothing?
I would thing you were weak!
Marriage is different then dating. If a name keeps cheating and the other person stays, it is weakness. But marriage is hard to get out of.
My cousin has a boyfriend who has left her several times to see other people and she always takes him back. Its since she doesn’t reckon she can do better and is too bone idle to find a name else.
You got out of the marriage. Excellent for you. Some people don’t since they are naive and really reckon the spouse will change.
it shows that either you dont mind and he can do whatever thing he wants to since he runs the relationship
The terms of a marriage are up to those involved to define.
Some people see an affair as the worst doable treachery, while others see it as a purely sexual relief and are not threatened by it.
Most people probably fall somewhere in linking.
Personally, I don’t have an opinion on other people’s marriages and their responses to faithlessness. There are too many factors that are known only to those involved, and ultimately, it’s not my concern.
Weak, they are worried to be alone even when their spouse has total disregard for their feelings and a exact contempt. How can you live like that in the same home? It’s okay to forgive one time and work through a marriage but if its a continuous thing then that makes you weak.
he would reckon that he could get away with it, without penalty. it is hard to know what to do when this happens, and there is always the possibility that the spouse will come to his senses and come back. but waiting too long just makes u look weak, and makes u feel weak about physically. when a spouse is openly cheating on u, its in your best interest to get a split so u can go on with life and not loose your dignity.
Anxiety.
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BTW, forgive them once, shame on them. Forgive them twice shame on you.
I dont premeditated is a sign of weakness. It takes a STRONG woman to place up with that kind of bold behavior.
In my opinion, I feel that you were hoping it would just end. But you had finally reached your limit and said “Enough is enough already”. I look at your EX as the weak one. Any man who cheats and cheats and cheats is a very weak person. It is the woman who puts up with it that is the strong one. It is the woman who will forgive and take the spouse/boyfriend back. Try that with a man. You cheat one time, and you are description!
But, the thought that is being relayed to the cheating spouse is this: “Its ok what you’re doing. I’ll stay right here and wait for you until you are done, and I will just ignore it….then we can continue with our marriage/relationship when you feel you are ready again.”
that is a tough one, I guess one never truly knows what they would do until it happens to them. I have forgiven mine for things that some folks would not agree with, I guess. Not faithlessness, but incorrect enough. It is up to the indiviudal, only you can say if you can get through a circumstances like that and not allow it to tear you up. Pray on it!
Its probably weak self esteem. Either you care or you don’t
I judge it all depends on how you look at it. In a sense, a woman who can forgive her cheating partner over and over must be strong enough to stay in such a tumultuous relationship that’s gotta be tearing her up inside instead of just throwing in the towel. All is different and the way that a woman handles the circumstances should be her declaration since it’s her life and no matter what she decides she shouldn’t be viewed as “weak” or like she’s worthless just since she decides to stay. I know quite a few women who have stayed in those relationships and their husbands absolutely altered after a few years (alcoholism had a lot to do with the repetitive cheating). Even if I have been cheated on myself, it was a one time thing and I left the relationship after the first time, but I don’t judge women who choose to stay either.
Due to the fact that STD’s can kill you…sticking around is not a excellent thought IMO. Would putting up with cheating be worth being paid AIDs?? I reckon not. I reckon a strong woman will kick him out and start over fresh with her head held high!
I would say denial… refusing to grasp what is going on and acting as if it is not… Hoping that they will come to their senses or praying that they will leave and not return.. Many deal with it in dread that they would not be able to make it on their own.
I reckon if you know and do nothing it is a form of saying you don’t care or don’t want to deal with it. I reckon it gives them the depression that they can have both of you.
Surly it had to have hurt your feelings to where he seen the impact of it. But that again depends on his level of caring for you.
If you knew and did nothing then I would inquiry your own feelings for him as well..maybe you just had enough and didn’t care since you knew it was going to end.. glad to see that you made the right choice.. I don’t reckon it shows weakness.. in a marriage there can be other factors that you have to take into consideration.. now and again it takes plotting to get out.. Sounds like you spent time being paid to know physically and how to live without him so when the time came you followed through with leaving.
If you know something is incorrect and you do nothing about it, you might as well give him permission to continue. But, you were probably in a state of shock and some denial. I bet your glad it’s over. Is it?
The spouse is weak and the cheating spouse learns it’s ok to cheat since their partner will do nothing.
I reckon you are a fool if you forgive him time and time again.
He knows you will stay. So he can do what ever he wants.
If you leave he is the fool with no one to take of him.
But most stay for money, kids, like. But he can`t make enough for you to place up this The kids might be better off. He can`t like you.
So why would anyone want to be a fool and look the other way.
Yes he thinks its amusing when he gets by with it. You were a fool.
Sorry but thats how I see it.
Excellent on you for summoning the strength needed to obtain the split!!! I could never stick around if I knew he was being unfaithful, that would be it for me.
I don’t reckon you should be so hard on physically for doing nothing for that first year and a bit after you knew about the affair. I suspect you were probably so devastated and shocked that you were kind of paralysed into operational, not since you didn’t care, not since you forgave him, but since you were so weakened by the information of the affair and so desperate for normality that you tried to live your life as normally as doable and failed to act, nearly as though you were in denial.
I reckon the thought given to the cheating spouse when the other spouse is fully aware of the affair and doesn’t act is that the other spouse is complicit in allowing the affair to take place. I reckon to some extent it may even appease their feelings of guilt. It’s not for you to concern physically with whatever he was thinking or touch though, he made the choice to cheat, and he is fully reliable for his own events. Your job is to take care of you, rebuild your life, let pass the fouled past you had with him, and dream a new dream for physically.