Question for those of you who have had a cheating spouse?
Carimel asked:
What was the first sign that your spouse was cheating? When did you first start suspecting it?
What was the outcome?
Categories: Marriage & Divorce Tags: Cheating Spouse, Spouse Cheating
less attention, more time away from home, don’t get invited to go along, more time at work, staying up later, or waking up earlier, always busy, more time on the phone or internet, or myspace, and it feels like you don’t even exist.
Snooping, questioning, acting insecure in the relationship is very unattractive and devalues you. Don’t look for cheating, act like you know you are too good for your guy to ever consider anyone else. Just let it be known that you have a zero tolerance policy for cheating.
Cheaters want to be caught. If he is cheating you will find out for sure or he will tell you. If you find this out, game over. Cheaters cheat, if you find your guy is cheating and stay you are just setting yourself up to be cheated on again and again and to live in a state of distrust.
i started suspecting when he kept comeing home drunk…alot.
i know this doesnt sound right, but i when through his pants pockets and found girls phone numbers. and i found that he was buying and going through comdoms a lot more too and not using them with me.
the outcome, well. he was a very honest guy, so i tried asking him, but he denied it..so i asked his friends and they told me. obviously i when home and cried. i confronted him about it and he did tell me that he did cheat on me a few times. we went to counsoling for a few months and now everything is normal. he got tested for any diseases, and he is fine. we are still together and i still love him. it was because i loved him so much, i was able to forgive him for what he did.
Jewelry showing up at home said it was gifts for her assistance at work ,
then an insistence that going out for evening meals with the boss until midnight, was necessary for work .
even his wife didn’t believe them.
I wish his wife would have liked me , but how if hes a millionaire and ime not
Money rules ime afraid.
Secret phone calls, hearing things about lunches together, hiding of the cell phone or keeping it on him at all times. Then came the “I love you but I’m not in love with you” speech. 99% of the time when you hear that, they are cheating. Cheaters follow a script, which is sad because they think their affair and affair partner is so special, but they are all the same.
She was gone more and she wouldn’t look into my eyes when she answered but the real thing is I think everyone has a “feeling” when things aren’t right.If you will listen to it.Or maybe it’s just me but I have almost always known when someone was not telling me the truth or when something bad was about to happen.The problem is sometimes I didn’t want to believe it.The result was divorce after over 20 years of being married.What ever your problem is I hope it works out for you.Good luck.
My ex was cheating with another woman before we parted ways. I never had a clue. Funny thing was she left me for her and then lost her. It wasn’t so funny anymore.
I started suspecting it when she was telling me remember when stories about times that I wasn’t there and her sister was remembering them too. Her sister was like, “yea I remember that, because it was about 3:30 in the after noon and Jerry was on and you guys were making out, so I went outside to smoke.” —Except I went to work at 2pm and didn’t get home until 11-1130
I just had this nagging feeling in the back of my mind. Our sex life was great we were married for 15 years but she would get a phone call and disappear and then immediately delete text messages. That’s when I got suspicious, so I got this computer program “I AM BIG BROTHER” it does screen captures and saves every key stroke I found out she had 4 different email addresses, 2 my space pages and was advertising herself on an adult sex web site and meeting strangers for sex at hotels.
Obviously were divorced know, I have custody of our 3 kids and she is up north in TN. She only talks to her kids for about 1 min, once a month if even that. its pretty sad to her like that I honestly think she has a sex addiction. There were 12 guys in a 2 year period that I found out about so I’m sure there were more.