I wrote a letter to wife about her cheating husband, should I send it?
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Her husband was cheating on her, actually sexually abused me even, and now I have decided to inform his wife because I feel sorry for her for not knowing. How can I send the letter to make sure SHE opens it and not her husband?
type up her name and add, make it look like its coming from a company is the only thing i can think of
Address it to her and send it registered mail. She will have to sign for it.
You should not do this. She probably already knows. It is evil. Revenge is always bad Karma. And if she is truly innocent, it is her you will hurt, not him. You can’t hurt him if he is already evil.
Can you add a little more. When you say he sexually abused you, are you underage? Was this your mom he was cheating with? What you tell us could change how I answer dramatically.
She has a right to know-but if you do this-you had
better be sure of your facts and not be over reacting
Because you are changing the world forever
for several people- one of which is very innocent
The registered letter in her name-signature required
is best
P.S. How old are you? If he truly sexually abused you tell your mother or the police
Leave it alone. If he sexually abused you , He may be dangerous. He will know it came from you and may come after you.
You need to concentrate on your on life issues. I feel that the only reason you want to tell her about the husband cheating is because you want her to be as miserable as you are.
I know you are hurt, but chances are, she already knows…everything.
Well for starters, if you are going to send this letter to her, about her husband, chances are she is going to confront her husband, and show him the letter that you have sent. So if you don’t want him to know that it was you, either don’t send it, or send it with another name. Also, there is a chance that she might not believe you, and that may cause an issue with her husband and you! Are you really willing to deal with that?
Yes. But make sure it is an anonymous letter, of course. Just put her name and only her name on the envelope. To make sure she is the only one who gets the letter, you could leave it on the windshield of her car or slip it in the mail slot while she is at home. You could also have it addressed to her work.
I’d want to know if my husband was cheating on me. But then again, by now, i’d probably already know.
I wouldn’t send the letter and I would report what he did to you to the police.
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Give it personally when you see that she’s alone…
Or if you don’t want see her, send it with some one else… I don’t know, a friend or messenger, but make sure that he delivered the letter in his hands… Maybe watching from afar…
What is your purpose ? Give her some hints of taking care of the Husband. The situation is tender, it may give some odd result, which u didn’t expect,/in welfare of the wife.
If this man sexually abused you and you can prove it, go to the police and report him and have him arrested. If you cannot prove it, then write the letter, but send it to her at her work. If she doesn’t work, then I guess I’d send it to the house with her name on and send it “registered mail” so her signature is required to receive it. That way he can’t sign for it. However, he will get asked about it and he’ll know you sent it. He may be abusing her, too.
if you have been sexually abused you should have reported it. dont let him get away with it.
You can address it clearly to her by her name. I know people may say don’t tell the wife because it’ll hurt her, but I’m talking from experience here. I’ve been cheated on before, what hurt me the most was that I was with my ex for 3 years without knowing that he was cheating on me, he used to act it out so well. When I found out I was hurt to the point that I didn’t know what to do, but I was happy and relieved that I found out. Finding out changed my life and I’m glad I’m not with him and I have moved on, although it took time to recover, I am happy today and my new partner loves me. His wife would be hurt yes, but it will be for her own good. Wish you all the best.
Yes definitely send it. The wife should know. As for registered mail, I sent that once, paid extra money to a specific person in a company and they let just anyone open it. You should go directly to her and hand it to her. If I were you I would tell the police they will investigate it, why did you even get close to a married man?
You don’t what the abuse is – that matters. If you are hurt that is one thing. You have no business ruining this marriage. Keep your kickers up and mind your own business.
I think that you need to personally give it to her. Tell her what has happened and that you felt she was important enough to have the truth given to her. But be ready, at first she may dismiss you or even be angry. So do it with a loving heart and not out of malice or anger. Just tell her that you felt she had the right to know. I agree with another poster that sending her the letter certified can be opened and signed by anyone. One thing I would take into consideration would be if the Guy is dangerous?! If he is, maybe you shouldn’t go to her, you don’t wanna cause her or yourself any harm. You might need to talk with a therapist or a trusted adult, to hash out the specifics on this dilema and what would be the best outcome for all parties involved. Best of luck.
Why a letter? Can you talk with her in person? what do you mean by sexually abused? are u under age? Ok, maybe Instead of writting a letter If I was you, I would try to make an appoinment with her to talk face to face. Also be careful if the husband finds out who told her about it. Do you have a way to prove it? well, just be extremely careful you have to be convincing enough because I have seen and know women that won’t believe anything that someone else would have to say about their hubbies. She may ended the friendship with you if you are not careful enough.