How to stop a cheating husband?
I һаνе bееח married fοr 12 years. I аm 31 years ancient. Mу spouse һаѕ cheated οח mе 5years ago, I caught һіm. I һаνе ѕіחсе forgiven һіm. Now I find out tһаt һе іѕ looking fοr a fling online! Hе bеחt a profile tο meet οtһеr females. I don’t know wһаt tο ԁο. I premeditated myself a ехсеƖƖеחt wife, I try tο take care οf аƖƖ һіѕ needs. Wе аƖѕο һаνе a 10 year ancient son together. Please һеƖр
Hynninen
You have no control over him….All you can do is control physically….I reckon it is time to leave his cheating azz…Of course if you REALLY want to end his cheating…I reckon a bullet to the head would do the trick…but there are ramifications for doing this…I reckon you would be better off leaving him….
Helena
He’s not going to stop. Just show him the door.It’s sad but if he hasn’t cultured his lesson yet he’s not going to. Just go on and let him go. You’ll be fine.
Jonna
Personally, I don’t judge that you can stop a name from cheating unless you can get to the root of the conundrum…which is why he wants a fling?!
I haven’t been married, but my ex of 7 yrs cheated on me the whole time since he wanted a baby. I wouldn’t give that to him. But if he wanted to cheat, he was going to.
The only way that you can fix your pain, is to go on. Give him an ultimatum…split, analysis, get out!
I hope that you do what is best for you and your son! That is what’s vital! You don’t need to hold on to a name who is not worth holding on to. Cheating is cheating…and you can forgive, but it’s very hard to forget, especially when he turns and do it again.
I hope that things work out in your favor.
Q
Tell him that you know. If he continues with his cheating you will have to leave him. It will be hard for your son, but reckon of the long run. Do you want your son growing up to reckon that it is okay to be unfaithful, or to tolerate this behavior? Even if your son never found out about the faithlessness, you taking a vocal stand hostile to it will speak volumes, and your silence will hurt both of you eventually.
Hyypp
Janne
i’m sorry but the only way is show him the door. he is not respecting you or the relationship. you need some backbone and leave him. you will hurt but it’s for the better. he will cheat some more later.
been there and done that
excellent luck
Huovi
Well, I would be gone, but, as you want to stay, the way to win him back is to shower him with appreciation. Praise him for the excellent things that he does. Make him feel like a winner. Make time to date him again, just you and him doing something fun. Flirt with him a lot, just like you did when you first met him. Above all – talk to him calmly and rationally about what’s going on for him right now. Excellent luck.
Helsinki
You cannot change another person. You can only change physically. So choose what you want and go for it. (Hopefully it includes divorcing a cheating spouse.)
By the way, he doesn’t cheat since of whatever thing you are doing or not doing. Most men cheat since it makes them feel excellent that they are wanted by a name else. Its like a form of empowerment.
So don’t beat physically up. Save that for him and his attorney.
Hentinen
The ONLY person you have any control over is physically. He is a cheater…he did it once, he’ll do it again. Why are you still with him? You’re not doing ANYTHING incorrect. It is NOT your fault. Stop blaming physically, and let the fault go where it belongs, on HIM! Take your son, and leave! You BOTH deserve better!
Heinola
Wow Layla, sad tale that sorry to say, is all too common in our the upper classes. This time? You need to confront him and let him know, if he’s that miserable he can leave, that you just aren’t going to go through this again NOR are you going to have your son subjected to this type of treachery, upset and dishonesty – and HE IS, a part of your family together.
He may glide off the handle, not want to go to analysis, but only YOU know what you’re willing to deal with here and only YOU can set the demand for further than intercession IF he isn’t able to speak to you. -And it does sound like analysis is certainly the only way either of you is going to get through this treachery – and if he does not agree to that, then there is no point going on, is there?
Sincerely,
Grace
Hauta-aho
the phrase …once a cheater always a cheater..
come to mind?
kick his bum to the curb… and go on…
Haapoja
You will not make him stop cheating. That is something that he has to do by himself. You need to confront him and question for that both of you see a marriage shrink. If he won’t go, you need to leave. He is no example for your 10 year ancient son to follow and trust me your 10 year ancient will figure things out sooner or later. If you are thinking about leaving, wait until you are matured. Go back to school, get your finances in order and get a plot. For your son’s sake, try to handle things with your spouse as calmly as doable. Excellent luck.
Hamina
As others here have said, you can’t control him, you can only control your own events. Personally, I reckon your best action would be to leave. I know it’s a lot harder than it sounds but your spouse is single-minded to cheat. If you tell him you know what he’s up to online, he’s just going to hide his events better next time or switch tactics. I’m sorry to say this, since I know how much you have invested in the marriage and in your life together, not to mention how hard it would be on your son. I really don’t see any excellent outcome from this. If you get out now, yes it would be trying, but a lot less trying than it would be, years down the road, when you’ve invested even more time in the marriage and you’re even more hurt and devastated than you are now. Excellent luck to you …
Jouni
Make him your “ex”…
He cheated once, you forgave him. He’s looking to do it again, what will happen if you forgive him again? He’ll keep cheating.
You don’t deserve that. Like you said, you try to take care of his needs…but he does nothing but betray you. Have you confronted him about his profile?
Jouko
Precious I am sorry to say this but you can’t, stop him that is. If he really wants to go on line and do this, there is nothing you can do. I have recently been through something like this myself and judge me when I say it is a nightmare. You obviously use the computer physically so try being paid a excellent keylogger on, sspro does a free 7 day trial, and this is usually long enough to find out what you need to know about what is really going on. If you follow the instructions he will never know. But be set for what you might find, if things are as you say they are it will not be pretty. Then you will have to choose for physically what you want to do, 12 years is a long time and hard to walk away from, but at the end of the day, if you do get him to come to his senses, you will have to choose if you can forgive him. Cheating is cheating, whether it be on line or corporal, the hurt goes just as deep. Excellent luck like, I hope you work things out, I will be thinking of you.
HIFK
One word……D-I-V-O-R-C-E
Helvi
There is nothing you can do to stop him cheating. You can either accept what he has done or stay with him. It’s your choice.