How do you forgive a cheating boyfriend?
I Ɩіkе һіm аחԁ һе Ɩіkеѕ mе. I know һе ԁοеѕ.. Bυt һе cheated οח mе wһеח times wеrе rough іח ουr relationship. Hе ѕаіԁ һе wаѕ sorry аחԁ tһаt іt wаѕ a stupid mistake. I know һе regrets еνеr cheating οח mе аחԁ tһаt hes truly sorry. Bυt һοw саח i еνеr find tһе strength tο forgive һіm?
1. Cheats don’t like anyone but themselves, stop being a fool.
2. A stupid mistake, what’d he do, slip and he accidently kissed/screwed her?
wow… I’ve gone through this before but only with my spouse not a boyfriend… It’s very very very hard. .. You may eventually forgive but noone can tell you how. But you will NEVER forget. … trust me …. and he has to be willing to do whatever it takes to rebuild that.. my spouse did that about a year ago.. it’s still hard TO THIS DAY … but we’re making it.. but he understood all the things that he wuld have to do to rebuild my trust.. excellent luck girl
I’m sorry
Give it time. If your relationship is strong enough, you will both place it behind you.
you don’t.
despise to say it but the rule of thumb on cheating is: Once a cheater always a cheater. I personally wouldn’t waste your time but thats just my opinion.
Reckon about how much you care for him and how much he cares for you and how lucky you are, iknow it might be hard but thats what I did and it helped me. I know how horrible you feel
but he really does like you
You don’t. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He has no sense of right and incorrect nor morals. Is this the kind of man you want to have family with? Things will continue to get rough in your relationship and he will cheat again and again. Dump this bum and find a mad who is trustworthy and deserving of you.
girl thas a real hard thing. i guess it just takes time.
but reckon to physically, if he really likes you, would he cheat on you??
just dont get caught up in this, u might deserve better
1)first guy who answered that was crushingly said.
2)you can’t, the reason why you can’t find the strength to forgive him is since he’s not meant to be forgiven for it. not until the day he can find a girl that he’s pleased enough with do not be a exact idiot
Sorry, you probably can FORGIVE him but you will never FORGET. Happened to me with hubby of 13 yrs. I kicked him to the curb! You will ALWAYS see him with her (even harder if you know the other woman, like I did) when you try to get intimate. If you can tolerate that? Excellent luck to ya cuz I couldn’t!
you like him but could you handle being paid hurt more if he cheats again?
If you really like him and you care for him, forgive him. Have in mind that what comes around goes around.
He did something terrible, something terrible will happen to him.
You don’t forgive him now, you won’t be forgiven when you need to be forgiven.
You are in a very tough circumstances. The person you loved betrayed you and now you just don’t trust him. Now you are going to have trust issues, you’re going to inquiry his every go, every outing, etc. Just know that if you truly want to work on the relationship and go past this indiscretion, you are going to have to wipe the slate clean and forgive (but never forget) that he was once unfaithful. If you don’t forgive him, it will always come up in every line of reasoning, in every discussion, in every chat etc, until the arguments consume your relationship. Now there is a chance that it may happen again, since as you know “once a dog, always a dog.” If it does, then you need to choose who you like more, him or physically?
If the boy is really sorry and serious not to repeat the same mistake, then there is no harm if you forgive him. It must be told to him in plain terms that if will do this mistake in future he will not be forgiven. Excellent Luck
ohhhhh No way to forgive a cheater guy/girl…… since they will cheat again…
since now they have cheating habits,,,
disease can go but habit never
i once cheated on my boyfriend and it was dreadful, and i regretted it and finished things with him when i told him even with the fact that he wanted to try and make it work. i couldn’t continue on in the relationship consequential i had hurt him like that and i tried to take a lesson away from the whole encounter and we are now fantastic acquaintances and i would NEVER do whatever thing like that again in a relationship. I reckon that this perspective can show you that a person really can change and that the “once a cheater always a cheater” saying, and the perception that a person who cheats does not care about the significant other are both fake. so what you need to do to forgive him is choose if the relationship is worth all the work that it is going to take, and if you really, truly judge it is, you need to spend time together and appreciate the small things. you need to try and rebuild your relationship from the start, and be with you that it was a mistake … we all make them.
In time you will forgive, humans have a small term memory when it comes to any type of pain!
My inquiry is: how will you ever trust him again? Trust is something we never forget once it has been hurt.
Get over the forgiving and start working on the trust issue, it’s by far more vital.
My concern is if he can cheat on you when things were rough this time around what will he do if you get married, have kids, a finance and things get tough again?
Don’t forgive him. Your relationship won’t be the same, ever, since he’s breached that trust.
I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but my advice is for you to leave him. Deep down, no matter how much you mean to each other or how much he apologizes, he can never accept you since he knows he just walked all over you. Don’t place up with that kind of crap.
There are penalty for people’s behavior, and I really hope you find the strength to just cut off contact with him. “Rough” times in the relationship are just that… they’re hard! But if he isn’t man enough to be able to stick around during them… what makes you reckon he won’t run for the hills when you hit an even harder patch years down the road?
He’s a JERK and not worth your time. I truly hope you cut off contact with him and focus on physically for a small bit, and then go out and find a guy who isn’t such scum.
Here’s my honest opinion of guys… bare in mind that I AM one.
Guys are like dogs, though not in the typical sense…
We are creatures of habit…
A man will test his boundaries like a dog will, and if you allow it once, it becomes ticket to do it again. Premeditated this:
When a dog goes poo on your floor, they say you need to rub his nose in it, pretty much to make him feel like this was his leading mistake in life. Why? since in the dog’s mind, if you DO NOT affirm that this is terrible, he assumes that it is GOOD, and consequently OK to do again and again. this spot on the floor now becomes poo central, and will perpetually be HIS spot to do this.
Men are pretty much the same, sadly.
It is my firm belief that once a cheater, always a cheater IF you allow it the first time. If you haven’t already made him pay dearly for this lapse in conscience, it may be to late to do so… sorry to say, this means that he may cheat again, and feed you the same line that worked before.
my nickel’s worth of free advice?
Tell him that you cannot trust him… and that while you can (one day) forgive the misconduct, you cannot allow a person that you don’t trust to have your like, and then break it off with him.
If he values you, he will hurt very from this, and it may be the ‘rub his nose in it’ affect you’re looking for… if in a week he’s off with another girl, then you have fixed your cheating conundrum by removing the cheater.
I know this sounds harsh, especially coming from a guy, but guys NEED this. We take women for granted and have a trend to walk all over our women. These types of radical events help to place us back in our place.
sorry to say, once trust is gone it’s very hard to repair it. only with professional analysis can it be done
I have been there too! The truth is it is hard! No matter how many times he tells you he likes you and is sorry you must really look within physically and try to forgive!
You must really look at your relationship and make sure it is what you want, and what was incorrect in your relationship during the rough times that made him step out? If you cannot pin point that probability are it will happen again! (Sorry to say that but I lived it!)
But, if you really like him and he likes you you can make it work! But you and he must know that it will take time, and your trust for him will not be there!
Always dredge up forgive but DON”T FORGET!!!!
He’s just your boyfriend, not your spouse with family. People pleased in their relationships don’t cheat. End your relationship and go on to save you both long term sadness.