How do you forgive a cheating boyfriend?
I love him and he loves me. I know he does.. But he cheated on me when times were rough in our relationship. He said he was sorry and that it was a stupid mistake. I know he regrets ever cheating on me and that hes truly sorry. But how can i ever find the strength to forgive him?
1. Cheats don’t love anyone but themselves, stop being a fool.
2. A stupid mistake, what’d he do, slip and he accidently kissed/screwed her?
wow… I’ve gone through this before but only with my husband not a boyfriend… It’s very very very hard. .. You may eventually forgive but noone can tell you how. But you will NEVER forget. … trust me …. and he has to be willing to do whatever it takes to rebuild that.. my husband did that about a year ago.. it’s still hard TO THIS DAY … but we’re making it.. but he understood all the things that he wuld have to do to rebuild my trust.. good luck girl
I’m sorry
Give it time. If your relationship is strong enough, you will both put it behind you.
you don’t.
hate to say it but the rule of thumb on cheating is: Once a cheater always a cheater. I personally wouldn’t waste your time but thats just my opinion.
Think about how much you care for him and how much he cares for you and how lucky you are, iknow it might be hard but thats what I did and it helped me. I know how horrible you feel
but he really does love you
You don’t. Once a cheater, always a cheater. He has no scruples nor morals. Is this the kind of man you want to have children with? Things will continue to get rough in your relationship and he will cheat again and again. Dump this bum and find a mad who is trustworthy and deserving of you.
girl thas a real hard thing. i guess it just takes time.
but think to yourself, if he really loves you, would he cheat on you??
just dont get caught up in this, u might deserve better
1)first guy who answered that was awesomely said.
2)you can’t, the reason why you can’t find the strength to forgive him is because he’s not meant to be forgiven for it. not until the day he can find a girl that he’s happy enough with do not be a complete idiot
Sorry, you probably can FORGIVE him but you will never FORGET. Happened to me with hubby of 13 yrs. I kicked him to the curb! You will ALWAYS envision him with her (even harder if you know the other woman, like I did) when you try to get intimate. If you can tolerate that? Good luck to ya cuz I couldn’t!
you love him but could you handle getting hurt more if he cheats again?
If you really love him and you care for him, forgive him. Have in mind that what comes around goes around.
He did something bad, something bad will happen to him.
You don’t forgive him now, you won’t be forgiven when you need to be forgiven.
You are in a very tough situation. The person you loved betrayed you and now you just don’t trust him. Now you are going to have trust issues, you’re going to question his every move, every outing, etc. Just know that if you truly want to work on the relationship and move past this indiscretion, you are going to have to wipe the slate clean and forgive (but never forget) that he was once unfaithful. If you don’t forgive him, it will always come up in every argument, in every discussion, in every conversation etc, until the arguments consume your relationship. Now there is a chance that it may happen again, because as you know “once a dog, always a dog.” If it does, then you need to decide who you love more, him or yourself?
If the boy is really sorry and serious not to repeat the same mistake, then there is no harm if you forgive him. It must be told to him in plain terms that if will do this mistake in future he will not be forgiven. Good Luck
ohhhhh No way to forgive a cheater guy/girl…… because they will cheat again…
because now they have cheating habits,,,
disease can go but habit never
i once cheated on my boyfriend and it was awful, and i regretted it and ended things with him when i told him despite the fact that he wanted to try and make it work. i couldn’t continue on in the relationship knowing i had hurt him like that and i tried to take a lesson away from the whole experience and we are now great friends and i would NEVER do anything like that again in a relationship. I think that this perspective can show you that a person really can change and that the “once a cheater always a cheater” saying, and the perception that a person who cheats does not care about the significant other are both false. so what you need to do to forgive him is decide if the relationship is worth all the work that it is going to take, and if you really, truly believe it is, you need to spend time together and appreciate the little things. you need to try and rebuild your relationship from the start, and understand that it was a mistake … we all make them.
In time you will forgive, humans have a short term memory when it comes to any type of pain!
My question is: how will you ever trust him again? Trust is something we never forget once it has been destroyed.
Get over the forgiving and start working on the trust issue, it’s by far more important.
My concern is if he can cheat on you when things were rough this time around what will he do if you get married, have kids, a mortgage and things get tough again?
Don’t forgive him. Your relationship won’t be the same, ever, because he’s breached that trust.
I know this isn’t what you want to hear, but my advice is for you to leave him. Deep down, no matter how much you mean to each other or how much he apologizes, he can never respect you because he knows he just walked all over you. Don’t put up with that kind of crap.
There are consequences for people’s behavior, and I really hope you find the strength to just cut off contact with him. “Rough” times in the relationship are just that… they’re hard! But if he isn’t man enough to be able to stick around during them… what makes you think he won’t run for the hills when you hit an even harder patch years down the road?
He’s a JERK and not worth your time. I truly hope you cut off contact with him and focus on yourself for a little bit, and then go out and find a guy who isn’t such scum.
Here’s my honest opinion of guys… bare in mind that I AM one.
Guys are like dogs, though not in the typical sense…
We are creatures of habit…
A man will test his boundaries like a dog will, and if you allow it once, it becomes license to do it again. Consider this:
When a dog goes poo on your floor, they say you need to rub his nose in it, pretty much to make him feel like this was his biggest mistake in life. Why? because in the dog’s mind, if you DO NOT affirm that this is bad, he assumes that it is GOOD, and therefore OK to do again and again. this spot on the floor now becomes poo central, and will forever be HIS spot to do this.
Men are pretty much the same, sadly.
It is my firm belief that once a cheater, always a cheater IF you allow it the first time. If you haven’t already made him pay dearly for this lapse in conscience, it may be to late to do so… unfortunately, this means that he may cheat again, and feed you the same line that worked before.
my nickel’s worth of free advice?
Tell him that you cannot trust him… and that while you can (one day) forgive the transgression, you cannot allow a person that you don’t trust to have your love, and then break it off with him.
If he values you, he will hurt terribly from this, and it may be the ‘rub his nose in it’ affect you’re looking for… if in a week he’s off with another girl, then you have fixed your cheating problem by removing the cheater.
I know this sounds harsh, especially coming from a guy, but guys NEED this. We take women for granted and have a tendency to walk all over our women. These types of radical actions help to put us back in our place.
unfortunately, once trust is gone it’s very hard to repair it. only with professional counseling can it be done
I have been there too! The truth is it is hard! No matter how many times he tells you he loves you and is sorry you must really look within yourself and try to forgive!
You must really look at your relationship and make sure it is what you want, and what was wrong in your relationship during the rough times that made him step out? If you cannot pin point that chances are it will happen again! (Sorry to say that but I lived it!)
However, if you really love him and he loves you you can make it work! But you and he must know that it will take time, and your trust for him will not be there!
Always remember forgive but DON”T FORGET!!!!
He’s just your boyfriend, not your husband with children. People happy in their relationships don’t cheat. End your relationship and move on to save you both long term heartache.