There is nothing you can do to stop him cheating. You can either accept what he has done or stay with him. It’s your choice.

One word……D-I-V-O-R-C-E

Precious I am sorry to say this but you can’t, stop him that is. If he really wants to go on line and do this, there is nothing you can do. I have recently been through something like this myself and judge me when I say it is a nightmare. You obviously use the computer physically so try being paid a excellent keylogger on, sspro does a free 7 day trial, and this is usually long enough to find out what you need to know about what is really going on. If you follow the instructions he will never know. But be set for what you might find, if things are as you say they are it will not be pretty. Then you will have to choose for physically what you want to do, 12 years is a long time and hard to walk away from, but at the end of the day, if you do get him to come to his senses, you will have to choose if you can forgive him. Cheating is cheating, whether it be on line or corporal, the hurt goes just as deep. Excellent luck like, I hope you work things out, I will be thinking of you.

Make him your “ex”…

He cheated once, you forgave him. He’s looking to do it again, what will happen if you forgive him again? He’ll keep cheating.

You don’t deserve that. Like you said, you try to take care of his needs…but he does nothing but betray you. Have you confronted him about his profile?

As others here have said, you can’t control him, you can only control your own events. Personally, I reckon your best action would be to leave. I know it’s a lot harder than it sounds but your spouse is single-minded to cheat. If you tell him you know what he’s up to online, he’s just going to hide his events better next time or switch tactics. I’m sorry to say this, since I know how much you have invested in the marriage and in your life together, not to mention how hard it would be on your son. I really don’t see any excellent outcome from this. If you get out now, yes it would be trying, but a lot less trying than it would be, years down the road, when you’ve invested even more time in the marriage and you’re even more hurt and devastated than you are now. Excellent luck to you …

it is all the same incorrect. but just like with teachers and students if the teacher is the male it always seems like it is worse. One of those things where she is the one that could get into vex things i guess.

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You will not make him stop cheating. That is something that he has to do by himself. You need to confront him and question for that both of you see a marriage shrink. If he won’t go, you need to leave. He is no example for your 10 year ancient son to follow and trust me your 10 year ancient will figure things out sooner or later. If you are thinking about leaving, wait until you are matured. Go back to school, get your finances in order and get a plot. For your son’s sake, try to handle things with your spouse as calmly as doable. Excellent luck.

the phrase …once a cheater always a cheater..
come to mind?
kick his bum to the curb… and go on…

It’s just like when men sleep around they’re called a “ladies man” or a “bachelor”. When women do it they’re called “sluts”.

I reckon it goes back to the traditional roles that men and women have been placed into since the admittance of time, even going back to caveman times. Males are held to spread their seed and females are held to stay home and raise the offspring.

Humans are the only species that are monogamous, but there’s still that gene in most males that has them always looking for more. Nowadays it’s nearly expected of men to cheat or have a roving eye.

But women are held to be the caretakers of the family, so when they cheat it disrupts the whole order of things. I’m not saying genetics are an excuse to cheat, but I reckon that’s where it all stems from…what makes it more “conventional” for a man to stray.

Wow Layla, sad tale that sorry to say, is all too common in our the upper classes. This time? You need to confront him and let him know, if he’s that miserable he can leave, that you just aren’t going to go through this again NOR are you going to have your son subjected to this type of treachery, upset and dishonesty – and HE IS, a part of your family together.

He may glide off the handle, not want to go to analysis, but only YOU know what you’re willing to deal with here and only YOU can set the demand for further than intercession IF he isn’t able to speak to you. -And it does sound like analysis is certainly the only way either of you is going to get through this treachery – and if he does not agree to that, then there is no point going on, is there?

Sincerely,

Grace